I took my first real Girls’ Trip in 1990 with a couple of college roommates to Norfolk, Virginia to meet up with one of the roommate’s fiance’ as he returned to the states from his Navy tour. I didn’t take another one until years later when myself and three other girls in our couples groups decided we had seen enough of the guys going on trips to the SEC tournaments, golf trips, etc. and took one of our own. Fast forward another decade and a half and I’m still at it. I love my trips with my kids and with my family, but there’s just something about the elusive Girls’ Trip that just resets you. Now my girls trip list consists of trips to Florida, trips to Gatlinburg, been on religious women’s retreats, shopping trips, trips to LA, trips to New York and just full on drink fests.
Last September I was invited on a trip to Corsica, France for a yoga/transformational retreat. I invited my sister in law to go with me and we set off, not knowing anyone but each other. Prior to the trip, I set up a backup plan to skip on over to Italy if some of the ladies proved to be too much drama for us to handle.
Fortunately, something magical happened and the nine women on this trip bonded almost instantaneously. We’ve all kept in touch and recently had a mini-reunion at one of the girls’ weddings last month, almost exactly a year later. I found our mini reunion just as magical as our first trip.
As much as I love trips with my kids and or with family, there really is just something special about a Girls’ Trip. Sometimes it’s so difficult to make time for yourself. Oh who am I kidding, it’s always difficult to make time for yourself. And for moms, and especially single moms, time for yourself? What the hell is that? It’s hard to see that making time for yourself really makes you a better mother, friend, daughter, person. Doing a girls trip is a fabulous way to make time for yourself and connect or reconnect with friends. Not only that, there are numerous other benefits.
1. Full on Belly laughs!
Like the flow of wine on these trips, the laughs seem to be endless. I’ve left Girls trips with sore stomach muscles from laughing so hard. Studies have shown that laughter can improve health, improve moods, boost morale, increase self-esteem and provide endless other benefits to your body and especially your soul. So pack your pearly whites and get ready to giggle into the wee hours!
2. Just be yourself
There’s never a better time to let your hair down than when you have a group of women together. Relax. Just be you and be comfortable with who you are. Odds are your friends will love you even more when they see this laid back version of you. The no makeup vulnerable, bare your soul version opens you up to more possibilities and makes you so much more relatable. Even that friend with the perfect hair, perfect body, perfect family has some issues she’s trying to deal with. I’ve found so many women struggle with some of the same problems. Talking about them with your girls just makes you feel so much better. Which leads me to the third reason to take that girls trip….
3. Support, empathy, compassion
You will never feel a greater sense of support than with a group of women helping each other. Knowing you’re all there to support one another provides such comfort. There’s a reason God made women mothers. We offer compassion, empathy, love and strength. Together we are unstoppable! Share your stories and your problems and offer the same in return!
4. Non-stop crazy stories
No matter how many trips I’ve been on, I come back thinking I should write down all the hilarious quotes, funny stories and craziness that happened! The stories from these girls trips can keep you giggling for months to come. You’re sitting in a coffee shop and suddenly something reminds you of what someone said or did and you’re laughing to yourself (looking like that crazy person, yes). The good vibes continue long after the trip has ended.
You’ll never feel more inspired than to put yourself in a group of wonderful women for a couple of days. Even if everything in your life is going fantastically, you have something to gain from other fabulous women. Each different person offers something different to your life.
6. Pushing each other
Nothing like a group of women to push you to take that leap, push through, fight for what you want. Talk about inspiration! Getting away with your girls can transform your life and push you to be your best self!
I’m usually the crazy one looking for adventure and trying to squeeze a little more excitement from the trip. Every girls group has one of these! But even I have some things that I question doing. Take advantage of these different personality types to force you to step out of your comfort zone and see where it takes you. You just might surprise yourself!
8. Make memories that will last a lifetime!
I still look back so fondly on all of my girls trips and I took away wonderful memories from every one of them. Some of those trips I met new friends and some I have deepened friendships. I am so thankful for all of my friendships and I’m so grateful that I have had the ability to explore wonderful new places with fabulous people.
9. Girls Trips Make You a Better Wife/Mother/Friend/Girlfriend
Every woman knows how terrible the guilt trip can be at times. You feel terrible leaving the kids, hubby/significant other and there is ALWAYS so much to do! Whatever the case may be, find the time. The first couple of trips I took with my friends, my youngest daughter attempted to jump on that guilt-trip band wagon. Now she says she can see a positive difference in me and tells me she knows it’s good for me to get away and enjoy myself. It makes me a better everything. I feel rejuvenated and refreshed.
All of that being said, before you start this adventure, it all starts with a good, quality group of friends to travel with. Always surround yourself with people who add positive value to your life. Something spectacular happens when you pull the right group of women together. Instead of jealousy and cattiness you find support and trust. You find inspiration and ways to grow. You find yourself and you’re a better you than you started on the trip.
Sometimes life changes can alter your friend groups. A move, a divorce, a breakup or any change in lifestyle can often leave you wondering who you could possibly travel with. Take that leap, join a MeetUp Group or KJ Connections and find groups of gals with similar interests who are looking for the same thing!
Whatever the case, step out, let go, enjoy and make the time to take the time!
Tell me about your favorite girls trip with your fabulous friends!